Friday, June 10, 2011

When Sex Gets Boring

It's a commonly held belief that the longer two people are together, the less exciting their sex life is. And in many situations, it becomes routine, or downright boring.

Scientists say that the very things that nurture love -- comfort, stability, safety -- can extinguish sexual desire - but does it have to?

According to Esther Perel, a licensed marriage and family therapist, one complaint rings true across all cultures: couples who describe themselves as loving, trusting and caring complain that their sex lives have become dull and devoid of eroticism.

She says that it is commonly viewed that sexual problems are the result of relationship problems -- namely, lack of communication. Find out about the state of the union first; see how it manifests in the bedroom second. The premise is that if sexual problems are the consequence of the relationship, fix the relationship and the sex will follow.

See therapist David Schnarch's video on Why Marriage Kills Sex, right now, right here.

1 comment:

  1. I have observed that after few years of marriage many couples find their sex life boring, I met one of them and discovered the frustration of husband. On probing him further he confided that his sex life was nothing but boring. Most of the couples have boring sex life. please visit